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Momentum II

Over a year ago I wrote this post.  Last week  I met up with my friend again for coffee in the same cafe.  It was great to share another moment in time – just at the right time.  Thanks my friend.

Here’s the old post . . .

A good friend and I meet for coffee every couple of weeks at Soho Brown, a café in Wellington city. Over a couple of flat whites, we sit and catch up on what’s been happening in our lives, what we’d like to happen, and why other stuff just happens to get in the way. Like a lot of friends, we share some common views, opinions, and experiences. It’s probably why we get along so well.

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walk out. ~ Walter Winchell

At our last coffee catch up, my friend mentioned that he had resigned from his job in Wellington and was heading off to another job in Dunedin (about 600km south of Wellington). I knew that he had been looking around for another job for sometime so I congratulated him on his new job and how I was really happy for him. I think I was reasonably convincing – at least on the outside.

On the inside at a completely selfish level I was going into shock. I was losing a good friend, my coffee buddy. We wouldn’t meet anymore for coffee. How would I fill this gaping hole every two weeks? I immediately began thinking of coffee friend replacements, but why? Do I have an abandonment complex?  I was really surprised at my inward reaction – it was really quite selfish and ugly. The stark duplicity of my reactions, both inward and outward was confronting.

I don’t make friends very easily. I’m good at having friends but not so good at being a friend.  I’ve found there is a big difference. I reflected on how the topics of our conversations always came back to me and my issues, rather than a 50/50 split of what a good friendship should be about. I have a lot to learn. Still, I am really genuinely happy for my friend, I’m sure his new life in Dunedin will be full of wonderful opportunities, and I do wish him all the best.

A true friend is one who thinks you are a good egg even if you are half cracked ~ Author unknown

I have really valued our coffee chats, and if I can learn anything about how to be a great friend – a real friend, it will be how my friend was a genuine and real friend to me. I really hope we stay in touch. I also hope that he doesn’t read this because he’ll think I’ve gone completely mad – perhaps I’ll be brave enough to email him a link and tell him how happy I am for him and how much I’ll miss our coffee catch ups. I guess that’s what a genuine friend would do, right?

Anyway, here’s my tribute to you my friend. It’s been a privilege getting to know you. Thanks for all the coffees, and don’t be a stranger. Go well my friend.
Momentum
We both meet here my friend
At this moment of time
In the words of this poem
We both share this same rhyme

The gift that we share
Some words in life’s sentence
A small part of our story
In one little parentheses

In this precious moment
Our souls greet each other
As part of God’s Kingdom
We meet here as Brothers

So let joy complete us
As we encounter and share
Let us carry each other
In our hopes and our prayers

Peace be with you my friend
Until next time we meet
Through this avenue of words
In the very same street

May the road rise up to meet you
And may God guide your feet
May the sun warm your face
Until next time we speak.

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Two Flat Whites

A good friend and I meet for coffee every couple of weeks at Soho Brown, a café in Wellington city. Over a couple of flat whites, we sit and catch up on what’s been happening in our lives, what we’d like to happen, and why other stuff just happens to get in the way. Like a lot of friends, we share some common views, opinions, and experiences. It’s probably why we get along so well.

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walk out. ~ Walter Winchell

At our last coffee catch up, my friend mentioned that he had resigned from his job in Wellington and was heading off to another job in Dunedin (about 600km south of Wellington). I knew that he had been looking around for another job for sometime so I congratulated him on his new job and how I was really happy for him. I think I was reasonably convincing – at least on the outside.

On the inside at a completely selfish level I was going into shock. I was losing a good friend, my coffee buddy. We wouldn’t meet anymore for coffee. How would I fill this gaping hole every two weeks? I immediately began thinking of coffee friend replacements, but why? Do I have an abandonment complex?  I was really surprised at my inward reaction – it was really quite selfish and ugly. The stark duplicity of my reactions, both inward and outward was confronting.

I don’t make friends very easily. I’m good at having friends but not so good at being a friend.  I’ve found there is a big difference. I reflected on how the topics of our conversations always came back to me and my issues, rather than a 50/50 split of what a good friendship should be about. I have a lot to learn. Still, I am really genuinely happy for my friend, I’m sure his new life in Dunedin will be full of wonderful opportunities, and I do wish him all the best.

A true friend is one who thinks you are a good egg even if you are half cracked ~ Author unknown

I have really valued our coffee chats, and if I can learn anything about how to be a great friend – a real friend, it will be how my friend was a genuine and real friend to me. I really hope we stay in touch. I also hope that he doesn’t read this because he’ll think I’ve gone completely mad – perhaps I’ll be brave enough to email him a link and tell him how happy I am for him and how much I’ll miss our coffee catch ups. I guess that’s what a genuine friend would do, right?

Anyway, here’s my tribute to you my friend. It’s been a privilege getting to know you. Thanks for all the coffees, and don’t be a stranger. Go well my friend. 
 
Momentum 
 
We both meet here my friend
At this moment of time
In the words of this poem
We both share this same rhyme

The gift that we share
Some words in life’s sentence
A small part of our story
In one little parentheses

In this precious moment
Our souls greet each other
As part of God’s Kingdom
As we love one another

So let joy complete us
As we encounter and share
Let us carry each other
In our hopes and our prayers

Peace be with you my friend
Until next time we meet
Through this avenue of words
In the very same street

May the road rise up to meet you
And may God guide your feet
May the sun warm your face
Until next time we speak.

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The embers of my burning heart,
Glow softly in the night.
They flicker as the hours pass,
As darkness turns to light.

I read your words upon the page,
They ignite my heart once more.
Another day of salt and light,
And sowing seeds from your store.

A raging fire burns in my heart,
As I walk through a broken world,
How my soul aches – I pray your path,
To take me where you will.

My heart leaps – the flames grow high,
I found a searching soul.
We talked about my Jesus,
God please, please make him whole.

Help me to be the salt – the light,
So that others will somehow see.
My candle blowing in the wind,
And your love to set them free.

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Two Rivers

The river runs
Its course flows true,
It gave its life
For me – for you.

From snow capped peaks
It began to flow,
Through different valleys
Divided as it grows.

One life is birthed
Through a gentle pool
The other
Over raging waterfalls

Twin rivers speed
Toward their goal,
Seeking each other
To make them whole.

The rivers meet
Around a bend,
Two lost souls
At last are friends.

They somehow knew
They’d meet again
A knowing look
At Journeys End

The rivers run
Their course ran true,
Back into the life
That made me and you.

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